An email on Single Mothers

--- email to a guy friend of mine on whether he should date a woman with a kid ---

...and there is nothing wrong with a girl having a baby. That's what sex produces. If you like her, date her. If you're not ready, I understand. But we're at the age where people have kids... with or without their daddies.

--- his response ---

I have absolutely nothing against a girl having a baby. I know that many do. And it's a good thing. Survival of the human race and all that. :-) I just don't think I can date someone with a kid. Like, ever. I just feel weird. I mean, that's not MY child. And it never will be. I may raise it, protect it, etc., but it'll never be MY blood, ya know? I don't want that. I want my own family, not just to come into someone else's. And everytime I look at the kid, I would be reminded that my girlfriend/wife/whatever had a baby with someone besides me. That kind of freaks me out a little to be honest. But like I said, I think it's a really good thing. Because I am 90% sure that I would want to date this girl if she didn't have a kid. And then I am 100% sure that if I dated this girl (or any for that matter), I would be completely pissed and disappointed in myself for it and would feel nothing but guilt the entire time we were together. And I'm sure I would project that on to her and just ruin anything we could have. THANK GOODNESS FOR BABIES HAVING BABIES!!!!! :-)

--- my response ---
I think I'm personally saddened that if I were to ever let a guy get me pregnant (note that if a guy has a kid by someone else, it's not a big deal to the girls he dates, or in some cases he can just pretend like he doesn't even HAVE a kid...) that that takes me off the market for dating ever again because you seem to think that me having a kid by someone else and expecting love from someone other than the baby's father is asking too much.

Interesting.